"I hope you will go out and let stories happen to you, and that you will work them, water them with your blood and tears and your laughter till they bloom, till you yourself burst into bloom. " ~Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Sunday, April 20, 2014

sitting in gratitude

In awe of a life that is shifting,
opening, expanding,

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Get Your Hands-- And Dollar Signs-- Off My Venus

This post is a step away from 'Small Stones', into the realm of 'Big Soap Box'. I've been quietly ruminating on this all day, and it has swelled into being genuinely angry-- okay, full on pissed off-- about a subject that we cannot seem to escape. And that subject is: Women's Weight Loss. It's everywhere. We must fit into our jeans. We must fit into our swimsuits. Our thighs should not rub together. We must look great naked. Our various body parts must be targeted and full-scale warfare must be issued. And it is all under the guise of "getting fit and healthy and feeling good".

Earlier today, a friend posted a seemingly innocuous image on Facebook that supposedly linked to the '5 Best Muffin Top Workouts'. Now, I try very hard to avoid falling for things like this, but curiosity got the better of me this morning, so yep, I clicked. The caption promised:

These body movements are NOT done with typical weights and machine type exercise. Most regular fitness instructors don't even know about this KILLER #fat-#burning method.

Did it take me to five really great exercises? No, there was nothing of what was promised in the initial graphic. Instead, I was prompted to click to watch a video for something called "Venus Factor". The amazing, no torture program that will allow us to be the sex kitten goddesses that we all long to be. The man behind it all ensures us of his deep love for his amazing sister, whom he desperately wanted to help save from her own inability to be the thin, sexy woman she wanted so desperately to be. The man goes on to say that from all of his intense research, he has solved what the rest of the world has not been able to find thus far. The magic answer to women's weight loss. And guess what he found? Our bodies don't work right. Yes, you heard it. WE ARE FAULTY BY DESIGN. We actually make more of a certain fat-burning enzyme in our bodies-- twice more than men make-- but our bodies don't know how to use it properly. So we have to trick our bodies into knowing what to do what men's bodies know how to do all on their own. And once we do, then we will never have to worry about weight gain, ever again. Amid all of this information, the eyes are bombarded with images of the thin, sexy (photo-shopped) kinds of women that we will surely be after just a few weeks on this program, as well as a plethora of images of the oh-my-god-cellulite-and-fat women that we SURELY don't want to be.

So... let me get this straight. Now, on top of all the other bullshit that women are fed on a daily basis, now we are supposed to sit still and be told that our bodies are inherently faulty by design, no wonder we're fat?

Frankly, I don't even care if science supports his findings. What I do care about is the endless barrage we undergo every single day, telling us that we are not enough. That, really, we will never be enough just as we are. I care about women feeling good. I care about women feeling comfortable in their own skin. I could give one less f*ck about muffin tops, cellulite, thigh gaps, or perky butts and boobs.

I care about the women and girls who will find this video, and fall prey to the mindset that there is something inherently wrong with them. We have enough coming at us without feeling like our bodies are out to defeat us, in an endless quest to find the body that someone else deems "good enough".

My weight loss tips? Lose the guilt trips, both from the world and from within. Eat real food. Move your body every day. Open your heart to yourself. Find joy in living.


Saturday, April 5, 2014